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Year of the Lace.

One year since I began covering.

I have experienced the blessing that comes with it. And hold to it as truth.

I was told I was narrowing my options down when it came to boys “Because what if *so-and-so* came back from college, and he wants to see you, he might not want to be with you because you dress like that.” To which I say, “Well, in less that a year I got married so I guess I narrowed it down to one! I would not be interested in *so-and-so* because *so-and-so* does not embrace Jesus, and why would I want to be with someone who won’t want to be with me because of the way I look?”

Somebody (I hardly knew and never talked to) expressed their worry that I shouldn’t get a “spirit of religion”. Because if I had a spirit of religion, I would have a spirit of religion, and when you have a spirit of religion, it is just not good to have a spirit of religion. Of course I am exaggerating this, but that it is jist of the conversation that they had with me. I explained why I look the way I look and such, I don’t really know if they understood completely. To that I say, “Covering my head and dressing in a modest manner does not get me into Heaven any faster than any other Christian, I don’t do it because it saves me, I do it because I AM saved! If someone saw me and they way I looked, that on-looker would know that I am different (set-apart, if you will), than if I was dressed to look like everyone else.”

I was told I was setting myself up for criticism, and I was going to be a target. To that I say, “Firstly, Well, doesn’t one set themselves up for being a target when they become a Christian in the first place?”

To those who are curious or to those who want to understand where I am coming from do some research and do it with an open mind and actually learn about it instead of closing the case just as fast as you opened it!

On my journey I have developed more and more in the ways of modesty. Readers may not have a similar conviction, and that is okay by me!

  • For church I wear white, black, plain coverings
  • For everyday dress, if I am sticking around home or the farm, sometimes I will wear bandanas.
  • For cleaning I will wear bandanas.
  • I don’t wear velvet, silk or anything similar, material that is textured that way turns me off, and I don’t want to wear something that “is pleasant to touch” if that makes any sense. I don’t want to have someone think that I would feel nice to touch.
  • I don’t wear jean material to Sunday church services.

I heard someone say in a round-about way that life in a skirt is impractical. To that I almost cannot hide my amusement. Think of our foremothers who wouldn’t even think of donning a man’s pants, they probably wouldn’t even see a man’s britches as more comfortable. These women raised children, ran a household, gardened (and not a frilly-froofy stuff an actual GARDEN), milk cows, fed chickens, swept, helped their husbands on projects, settled the wild West, rode horses, held down the fort while their husbands were off to war, did the back-breaking chore of laundry, ran businesses, the list could literally go on and ON!

In my life of skirts, I have not only went through a whole day being comfortable in my skirts, I have gardened, went snow-shoeing (very fun story, but that will be told later), watched children, ran and horsed around with my husband, rode in tractor, cleaned my house, did the laundry, made meals, participated in dog shows, worked at a library, attended college classes (…yeah), went rock-hopping (and didn’t die! [or stumble]), my list could go on but dinner is almost done at the farm, what I am trying to point out is that it is possible! It really is. My skirts and jumpers are not tight and uncomfortable though, which is a lot of what most women have when it comes to that style of clothing.

My wardrobe is comfortable, feminine, reasonable, pleasant, attractive (just ask my husband. :P), modest, and set-apart. When someone sees me I want them to see that I am a Christian women, under the authority of her husband (I will post on this subject too), dressing in a manner (I know they didn’t dress like this in biblical times okay!?) to please her Maker. That is really want to is all about.

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Inconsideration.

Today marks seven months since I began covering.

This happened today in class after a break the teacher had given us. This girl sits behind me.

“Where have you been?”

*Confused look*

“I have a question for you.”

“Oh, okay.”

“Fly swatter?” *inquiring my bag of random household items*

“Oh, I am getting married in November, it is a gift because they can’t come to my shower.”

“Fly swatter??”

“It is just stuff for my house.”

“Oh! Okay! Because I was think ‘Wow this girl is carrying a fly swatter and  a cutting board, this chick is messed up. Do you got any Amish in ya?!? That was my next question Do you got any Amish in ya?!?”

“No.”

“Oh, Okay good, I don’t have to move because you’re not messed up…” And she carries on and then made another rude comment about it.

Wow…

I’m amazed at her ignorance. She must not know very much about the Amish. Unbelieveable ignorance just amazes me! I highly doubt this girl has ever met an Amish person!

I do not dress like an Amish woman. I was wearing a shirt, jean skirt and a lace round covering.

Just because I have something on my head, does not make me an alien or something.

I wonder what would have happened if I would have said “Yes.”

If this person honestly, had a question and spoke it with sencerity I would have gladly answered! I really would have. It just makes me sad when people can’t question with kindness.

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My take on the Duggars:

I really like watching the Duggar Family, when I have the time.  I enjoy watching a family who really loves God and loves each other.

But there is something I have noticed in the way that they dress now.

Call me weird, but it kind of is dissapointing. The girls are wearing ‘tighter’ clothes and going more for what is ‘in’. One of the daughters (I know her name I just won’t mention it) wore a flowy knee length skirt on a windy day. I was surprised. I could see her short leggings.

I understand styles and preferences change. But the longer this family is filmed the more their clothing has changed. I don’t know that family’s situation but it seems to me like they are changing just because they are on television.

I just got finished with looking at a headcovering website. They have discontinued a lot of their “more extensive” coverings and are selling a lot more headbands now. If you ask me, a headband is not a covering. The headbands they are selling, although they are pretty , they do not fall under the “covering” catogory in my book.

Why do I feel this way?

Maybe it is because I struggled with the issue of clothing so much in the past. I was more focused on the trendy and eye-poping then covering myself up.

When I was loosing my weight, I will admit, I looked good, and I knew it, so the “body complimenting” jeans came back. I wore them for those reasons. Not to cover up my body. But to show it off.

Now I know that is not the main goal of a lot of my friends who do in fact wear jeans. But as I stated above I had a secretive goal (or lack thereof) to show my weightloss off to MY glory. I was lying about the nature of God and misrepresenting what a follower of Christ is.

When I began wearing skirts and dresses again, I purchased a very nice jean dress. I wore it to church. I knew my purchase was a mistake when  one of the older ladies complimented me by saying, “Oh, that shows off your figure so well!” Upon cleaning out my closet the dress promptly went back into a bag to be donated to the same place where I got it from. The dress was modest, but not my correct size.

I guess you could call this an ”as for me…” type of issue. If there is anyone out there who is considering that type of lifestyle change, don’t knock it until you try it but, don’t take my word for it. Please don’t. Ask God. He won’t turn you away for asking.

It is what I went through and what I am still going through. I still really enjoy clothing, which I think is good. Although, Christians should not be CONSUMED with fashion, it isn’t wrong to want to look nice.

Cruising through the different modesty sites I love looking at the different colors, patterns, styles.

But how much is really too much?

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Month Funf!

NOTE: Okay…someone has been searching for me on Google. Creepy…

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It has been 5 months now since I have been covering.

I feel like I need to say this to my headcovering sisters out there. Do Not Be Ashamed of the Covering. Stick with the conviction, Don’t be ashamed, I thought it would have been to difficult for me but it wasn’t. I guess having mature family and friends has something to do with it. They are more curious than critical.

The more and more I go on the plainer I get. While out shopping I have found dresses and jumpers and let me tell you, they are so much more comfortable than my old jeans!

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Month 4

Last Wednesday marked 4 months of headcovering for me.

I get asked the “normal questions” of course. Some of them are just a little bit strange.

Lady: “Where are you from?”

Me: “Bay City.”

Lady: “There aren’t a lot of Mennonites in Bay City.”

Me: “I’m not a Mennonite.”

Lady: “…”

Me: “I’m a Christian-“

Lady “Of course you are.”

Man: “So what’s this headgear you have here.”

Me: “A headcovering…I don’t really have a denomination…(I go on to try to explain it)…it’s also a witnessing tool too…”

Man: “So you are a Jehovah’s witness?

Me: “No. I’m a Christian”

Man: “So you want to become Jewish.”

Me: “No…”

Man: “You want to become a Muslim then”

Me: “No

Guy my age: “So you cover your hair everyday? What are you?”

Older man that walks up to the desk at work: “You know I saw a tractor the other day with metal tires. It belongs to a Mennonite”

Me (weirded out, but trying to be polite): “??? Oh?”

Older man that walks up to the desk at work: “And I have never seen them before. There is his name.” He proceeds to show me the card with the Mennonite man’s name on it. He must have saw the very confused look on my face “You probably have no idea what I’m talking about do you?”

Me: rather quietly “No.”

It came to me after he walked away that he assumed that I was a Mennonite.

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