Wow! Where have I been?
I am long overdue, I know, but I feel like I have nothing to write about until…awhile ago I borrowed a book from my mother-in-law called Spirit-Controlled Tempreament by Tim LaHaye. I like this book because it helped me understand myself and other people as well.
I started to look around for other kinds of personality and temperament tests.
Warning this is a long read honey!
Without further ado—Here is an exhaustive look inside of my personality test results.
I will be doing several different ones.
I’m doing this more for me, but I figured my readers would find it interesting. :)
I don’t believe that my results are the end all and be all though.
A little disclaimer: While we cannot begin to explain the complxeties of people try to use these tests as a tool to serve the Father better. And I believe the same should go for you. :) Never stop growing and learning!
What not to do: “Oh, I’m a “thus-and-such” so I can’t ‘blank’. Never use your results as an excuse to hold yourself back. As God works on us we change and He makes us new!
First off is
Debi Pearl’s ‘Three Types of Women’ (can be found in the Pearl’s Created to be His Helpmeet, Preparing to be His Helpmeet, Created to Need a Helpmeet and I can only assume in In Search of a Helpmeet)
Go-to Gals (or Queens), Servant Girls and Dreamer Girl?
These branch off from her ‘Three Types of Men’ personalities. Based off of the Trinity (Father, Son, Holy Spirit) there are Command Men (or Kings), Priestly Men (or Servants), or Visionaries. Men’s personalities are stronger, and since women came from man ours are not as strong, We are more apt to flex and change depending on who we marry.
My primary one is Steady or Servant Girl. My secondary is Dreamer Girl.
- Hospitable, loves to visit
- Very conscious of needs and opportunities to help others
- Emotional, very compassionate, strong beliefs, opinions and convictions
- She needs a strong man to keep her feeling balanced
- Always trying to serve and give
- Not very good at pacing herself, sometimes overexerting and overextending, prone to discouragement, exhaustion and burnout.
- Very sympathetic and understanding, quick to take blame and very burdened with the problems and needs of others
- Has strong intuitions and impressions, many of which turn out to be correct.
I really like Debi’s approach here. She points out strengths and weaknesses. She gives good descriptions of the three types, as well as advice on how to serve, help and love your man!
And now for,
Tim LaHaye’s Spirit-Controlled Temperament
Based of off Hippocrates Four Humors, there are – Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy and Phlegmatic. LaHaye breaks the categories down then has several chapters on the pros and cons of each type. Includes chapters on anger, depression, the fruits of the Spirit, how Christ can fulfill and heal you and how you can better serve Him!
I am predominantly Melancholy, my secondary is Sanguine. Going further my third is Phlegmatic and I am least like the Choleric.
- Introverted, but given to a variety of moods
- Won’t push forward to meet people, but lets people come to them.
- Prone to depression
- Has a strong desire to be loved by others
- Disappointing experiences make them reluctant to take people at face value, prone to be suspicious when others seek them out or shower them with attention
- No one gets more enjoyment from the fine arts than the Melancholy
- Can be withdrawn and antagonistic while in a state of depression
I think the analytical part of the melancholy is tempered by my secondary Sanguine. I have been told I’m not analytical. Me, I’m not too sure. When given an assignment or subject I’m passionate about I research and take notes and make references. But I guess it’s not really predominate in day- to-day stuff.
- When in a mood of inspiration, they produce a great work of art or genius, followed by periods of great depression
- finds their greatest meaning through personal sacrifice
- can “feel” music – Yes!!!!!!
- They tend to place self-imposed limitations on their potential, and exaggerate obstacles
- Perfectionist (in my own way I am…)
“No temperament has as much natural potential when energized by the Holy Spirit as the Melancholy. Many outstanding Bible characters had strong Melancholy tendencies; all the prophets were Melancholy (can you say “Jeremiah!”) as was Solomon and the apostle John (<3). And then there was Moses – a gifted introvert filled with self-doubt who eventually trusted God to make him one of the greatest leaders in all history. Yet Moses never had victory over his anger, which limited God’s use of his life and resulted in his dying without entering the Promised Land”
My Temperament Blend – Melancholy/Sanguine “MelSan”
- Almost any craft or trade welcomes MelSans
- Loyal husbands or wives and make devoted parents if they learn to accept people and refuse to be too critical
- Make good teachers (Hmm, I like one -on-one type of things better)
- Good in the performing arts
- They will be emotional creatures (Yeah, ask anyone who has been close to me)
- They must guard their thinking process (this was helpful to me when I read it , and I put it into practice)
- they are easily moved to tears (Yep) feel everything deeply, can be unreasonably critical and hard
- Idealistic and impractical
- As students they will get superior grades (nope!) but maybe take five or six to finish college because they change their major so many times ( yeah I could see that happening if I would have stayed in college)
- it is not unlike them to abandon their education which makes it difficult for them to measure up to their potential
- Often fearful and insecure with a poor self-image
- They internalize
John the Baptist, Elijah, Jeremiah and others. They had a tremendous capacity to commune with God, were self-sacrificing people-helpers who had enough charisma to attract a following, tended to be legalistic in their teachings and calls to repentance, exhibited a flair for the dramatic and willingly died for their principles. But they also had times of self-doubt and bouts with depression.
So what do you think? What are you? What have you learned about yourself? Do you let it hold you back? Or do you use it as a stepping stone for improvement?
Next time my Spiritual Gift tests results…